Happy New Yearish resolutions

Happy New Yearish resolutions

Well it’s the third week of January and all my new year resolutions have gone to pot. I haven’t even managed to read a poem a day from my ‘Poem for the Day’ book. So I’ve decided to focus on resolutions for Ewan instead. At six years and nearly four months old, surely he should be more task-driven and results-focused? When I urge him to brush his teeth, surely he should concentrate on getting the job done quickly and efficiently rather than standing with the brush hanging out of his mouth while he performs experiments with my face-creams and tries to squash my sandalwood soap? Why, when I ask him to get dressed or undressed, does he apparently not hear me and persist in climbing on my exercise bike or performing roly-polys on the bed? There are only so many times I can repeat the same request in a patient fashion. Things deteriorate rapidly when he agrees happily to do the required job, then immediately forgets and starts doing something else – for the umpteenth time that morning. I mean, what would my boss say if I behaved like that??

Of course, I do try to remain patient and not shout (too loudly) or anything – I would hate to stunt his curiosity and creativity and whatnot. A natural interest in physics or something might be germinating as he watches the water whirling down the plughole and wonders why it only whirls in one direction. And I certainly don’t want to stress him out by getting into a frenzy when we’re late, as if life is one big emergency and we’re ruled by the clock. I’d like him to be relaxed in his childhood world – but at the same time he does have to have a healthy respect for being punctual… Difficult to know what the right balance is between being cross and being ‘nice’, being tough and being gentle, being ‘real’ and being perhaps overly calm…? Really and truly though, sometimes it would try the patience of a saint. What it must be like trying to get more than one child out of the house in the mornings I simply cannot imagine.

I wonder what age they start getting things done relatively promptly and stop being distracted? Or does it sometimes just NEVER happen? No doubt all will be revealed in the fullness of time…