10 things which I do differently after becoming a parent

Painted by Billy Fermor for the BCT Drawing Competition
28 September 2021
1) Working hours: I used to spend quite long hours in the office before December 2013. The reasons why I did long hours are not very clearly settled in my brain so I will avoid going into details of that. Apart, probably the fact that, I had more work than normal 8-hour day would need, like many of my colleagues around. My work load has not changed, but I deal with it differently. At 17h00 exactly every day I am out of my office, no matter how much I still have to do. The main reason for this is that, when as a working parent, aware that boys have been in the childcare since 8.00am, no matter how many ‘important’ thing I have left behind on my desk I just want to spend some time with them. Without leaving office at this time, I won’t be able to see my children during the week days, as simple as it is.

2) Weekends: Before my (our) weekends started on Friday night, and included friends over, or a visit to a friend(s), a cinema, walk in the country side or a short weekend trip. Forget Friday evenings going-out-and-about. Friday evenings are now to stay at home and relax, and I mean it literally. When working and have children that is about enough to take out all your resources for ant extra activities :). Weekends are still good, but different. It still includes some weekend trips, long walks and even hanging-out with friends. But all these have to be done during day-hours and well synchronised with sleeping times of the little ones. Also during the weekend going out in the evening is kind of too much at this stage 🙂

3) Relaxing: that is a magic word when one is a working parent. It does exist, but it is a different kind of relaxing. For example being at the playground full with kids between age 1 and 5 might be relaxing because there is so much attraction and destruction for my children that I do not have to constantly thinks how to entertain and stimulate them.

4) Reading books: that has become a real challenge. I did manage in this 1.5 years to read 3 books (yes just 3!). Finding time in between work and enjoying the parenthood, to sit and read and understand what I read is a bit of a challenge. So I am waiting for better times when boys get into reading and we can do it together:)

5) Google search engine: my search includes all kind of baby items and sometimes baby and medical terms which I had never thought I would even need to know.

6) Hanging our with girl-friends. I am that kind of girl (or I was at least) who loves to hang out with girl friends. Its been slow lately, but not totally absent.

7) Hobbies: one of my hobbies – to stroll in unknown streets and make photos, changed into making photos of my children. I have caught some fantastic moments with them, but still hoping to get to old habits sooner or later.

8) Starting to ‘like’ or like what my kids like: my children are bilingual (Georgian/Dutch). Their 1st real word that they understand meaning of was ‘ჩიტი’ – bird. My husband is a big bird lover and watcher. Boys love birds, but really love. They can run from the other side of the apartment when they hear the balcony door is open – just to see the birds. Just looking at how fascinated they are by watching birds, I started to like birds and I event started to like to go to the Zoos:)

9) Your going to bed time: they wake up at 7am every day. They do not know weekends and holidays. So I also wake up early. This means i need to go to bed also early. I am not that type who is ok with 6 hours of sleep a night:) i do need my 8 hours, every night.

10) Multi-tasking becoming a habit: this I think is a special trait of the parents of twins. You have to become multi-tasker else you will never make your day through. Like feeding one baby with a bottle and putting the other to the bed. Or trying to play with 2 toddlers at the same time, who want to have the same toys or books but would not allow to play together…and my task is to keep both happy.

By Tika

This article is about: parenting

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